Did you know that every decision that you make as a parent effects your kids in someway or another?
Think about that for a minute. Everything thing you do as a parent is shaping your kids for the future. If you really think about it that fact, don’t you just want to freak out?
This is how I sometimes react, “Holy sh*t what the hell am I doing being a parent?” Its enough to make me want to crawl in my bed and hide under the covers.
I believe that this little panic attack that I am having began when Jeff and I thought that it would be a good idea to give Hayden a birthday party with some friends from school.
All we wanted to do was let Hayden invite a couple friends from school over to our house to carve some pumpkins and eat some cake. But this idea, simple as it sounds, became very complicated very quickly.
The more I talked with other parents the more confused and unsure about this whole idea I became.
Apparently, you just can’t invite a couple kindergartners to your house. No, you have to invite the whole class. If you don’t, parents will hunt you down and question you as to why you think your son is better than their son because he didn’t get and invited to the party. And in order to get these kids to be able to come over to your house to play with your son, you have to be best buddies with the kid’s parents or you will be considered creepy and a possible child molester. Not to mention that since it is early in the school year, the little friends that Hayden makes changes almost every day he goes to school and are mostly girls.
Now we all know that birthday parties are the social event of kindergarten. I mean, if you are someone’s friend you get to go and if you are not someone’s friend you don’t get to go. Someone can get to you to like them by dangling their birthday party invite in front of you. And if you make them mad, they will pull that invite right away.
If I don’t get this whole birthday party thing right then Hayden will be a social outcast for the rest of his school career. My actions right now are shaping his social status and that is a very powerful think to hold in my hands.
I just don’t remember things being this complicated when I was a kid. I just went to school handed out invitations to my friends and they came over. Sometimes, I don’t think that my parents even knew.
They just provided us with pizza and a clown and a good time was had by all. I am pretty sure there was no background checks or blood tests for viruses involved for hosting kids are our house.
Maybe I am just a simple, naive parent but why can’t we just have a couple kids over for a birthday party?